Is a first look bad luck?
I am frequently asked my thoughts on doing a first look. My opinion is mainly personal and based my own wedding experience.
Yes children, back in the oooooold days of 1992 there were definitely a few wedding traditions that leaned toward superstition. No one did a first look. Ever. The concept didn't even exist. It was still considered bad luck for the groom to see the bride prior to the wedding. What was that all about? When I got down the aisle and finally held the hands of my man, suddenly his eyes welled up and he was fighting back tears. He was overcome with emotion over seeing me and getting married. But, because everyone was staring at us, and the pastor was talking, we couldn’t have a private conversation about how we felt in that moment. And, it all went by so fast. So without further ado, I give you my short list of…
Why I Love a First Look
- It is private. You have time to share your personal reaction to seeing each other for the first time on your wedding day. (Well, semi-private if you count your photographers, but they don’t count.) Like I mentioned, the day goes by so quickly. Take those moments to slow it down and savor it.
- It calms the nerves. Every couple who does a first look seems to have found it intimate, enjoyable, and a unique memory they will always share.
- You get more photos. If you ask a photographer if they prefer a first look, I guarantee you they all say, “YES!” Every time. It gives photographers time to get shots of the couple while they are brimming with joy and anticipation.
- …And, more photos. They can also jump in and cover shots of the bridal party together. Straight after the ceremony tends to be the time for family formal shots, which can be unpredictable and take more time than expected. Knowing they already have the bridal party shots in the bag is a plus.
- …And, still more photos. This leaves time for another mini couple’s shoot after the ceremony. The nerves are gone and the couple can easy into some beautiful light at that time of the day.
- This all trickles down to produce a far better chance of your reception starting on time, with all the bases covered on photos. This makes all your guests and your vendors very happy. It has been 3-4 hours since first arriving at the venue, so by that time of the day couples are 100% start their party.
- But, I will say those die-hard traditionalists are never sorry they waited for their first look to occur as the aisle shrinks between them. Talk about your exciting processional! This is simply just one bride’s opinion.