Making Your Wedding Table Perfect
Whether 'tis nobler on the table to place them... chargers always seem to come with questions. Between etiquette, style, and having a "user friendly" wedding, these are the things we must ponder.
Etiquette - Traditionally, chargers are used for a served meal, and not for a buffet meal. The logic is that a plated meal would then be set upon the charger by a server, if the china coordinates with it. Another option, is that it serves simply as a place marker and is removed prior to the plate being placed before the guest. But, modern day etiquette somewhat delights in throwing out the "rules", allowing for an undone sophistication that is currently all the rage. Thus, do we follow traditional etiquette, or mix it up?
Style - The perfectly chosen charger is a beautiful thing. They can be made of natural, metal, or even plastic materials. Wedding stylists enjoy them because they feel they complete the table. A mixture of textures and colors adds depth to your tablescape, making chargers a fun additional element to play with.
User Friendliness - This is where I have seen mistakes made if they are used for buffets. A large number of the American population doesn't know what a charger is, or what to do with one when faced with it. Because plates are generally placed at the buffet, allowing guests to walk to the buffet without carrying their plate, the charger is often placed on the table without a plate on it. In this case, the same thing inevitably happens at every plateless-charger wedding. A poor guest (or several) misses the site coordinator's instructions and innocently strolls off to the buffet with their charger in hand. Once they arrive at the buffet they feel foolish and frustrated, as if they were set up. Now, we can do better than making your guests turn a shade of red and feel like they want to frisbee their charger into the flowerbeds, can't we? If you want to use chargers at a buffet, then go for it! This is YOUR wedding. Just ask your caterer to place the plates upon the chargers at the table, rather than the buffet. While this does mean that your guests will make their journey to the buffet with the less elegant act of carrying their plate, you will avoid placing them in an uncomfortable situation. Making your sure your guests always feel comfortable at your wedding always trumps style and beauty. I always say, it doesn't matter how stunning/charming/lovely to look at your wedding is, if the guests feel uncomfortable you have failed them in some small way. It is simply human nature that they remember how they felt at your wedding more than how it amazing it looked. Charger on! Or don't. The choice is yours.
In addition, Happy New Year! My resolution is to blog weekly. That means 52 posts! It also means that as I post this one, I need to start thinking of the next post. There is so much happening here at the venue, and in this industry, that I am confident there is plenty of material. Who knows, if all goes well, perhaps you will get TWO posts a week in 2017. We wish for another beautiful year of making couples and their guests supremely happy while we continue to learn, grow, and love more deeply.